Twisted Bar

The Mystic's View!
Awaken Conscious Creation!

by Tom Razzeto

Copyright 2007 - Tom Razzeto

Twisted Bar

Chapter 8 - Choosing Your Emotions

Can you choose your emotions?

I was re-reading a channeled book the other night called "Conscious Life - Creating Your Reality" by Ramon Stevens from 1991. The entity that he channels is named Alexander.

Near the end of the book, there's a chapter titled "Being Peace". In it Alexander states:

"The contents of your heart bind you to all others of your species. At the level of the psyche, the collective unconsciousness, whatever you feel and believe contributes to the store of potential global experience. The more people who carry love and compassion, the more likely that events of a harmonious nature will manifest. The more people who carry hatred in their hearts - even silently - the more likely that the events of enmity and war will break out."

So what do we carry in our hearts? Do we choose what we carry? Can we choose our emotions? Can we choose to carry peace?

Many people, when talking about their emotions, say, "I just can't help it! That's just the way I feel!"

Are we really just victims of our own emotions and situations? No, I don't think so. Can we do our own experiments to find out for sure? Let's look into this.

As I encounter many situations throughout the day, it seems that I actually have a choice about how I feel as the events unfold. For example, let's say that I'm joyfully on my way to my favorite hiking trail as I drive down the freeway on-ramp. I suddenly see that the freeway is all jammed up like a big parking lot. My joy may rapidly disappear only to be replaced by frustration or perhaps even anger. "That dirty no-good boss. He kept me in that stupid meeting way past quitting time and now here I am stuck in this huge mess." That emotion is loaded with judgment towards the boss, the meeting and the traffic jam and does not feel good inside.

But I notice that I can catch myself before I fall deeper into those negative emotions, or even after I fall, and make a new choice. I can step back and affirm, "I experience peace and joy now!" For me, it comes right in, on cue, just like I flipped a switch. There's even a little tickle inside, just like an inner massage. It feels good! Give it a try. See if it's true for you, too. You may receive a pleasant surprise!

With your whole being, remember the emotion of joy just like you might remember an event with your mind. Feel the joy inside, just like you feel it under positive circumstances.

Once you do this successfully, you'll know for sure that it is indeed possible and it will become easier to do the next time. With practice, you might even be able to catch yourself right as you start to fall into the negative emotions. This makes it even easier to choose joy. It can even become a habit and you will no longer link certain events to the usual negative emotions experienced by almost everyone else. You will be free to experience any emotion at any time.

In the traffic jam, I could even go further and think, "Look at all these people I can send love to! And plenty of time to do it, too! Usually everyone is racing around but now I can zap 'em all with love quite easily.

"Oh, you want to change lanes and get in front of me? Here, let me help you. There, that was easy. Have a great day!" Zap! Boy, does it feel good inside when I do that! And the more I cooperate with others, the more it feels good! Fantastic! What freedom! The freedom to choose joy at any moment!

Hey, I'm not going anywhere very quickly one way or the other. I can sit in the traffic jam frustrated and angry or I can sit in traffic in bliss. Take the road less traveled, choose the bliss!

While all of this seems true for me, I don't think that it's really possible to be completely ecstatic every single minute. Maybe for some enlightened saint it is, but for regular people, there will always be ups and downs.

Yet my important point remains true. You can, in many situations that are quite common, change from a normal negative emotional reaction to a very positive emotional choice. The proof is in your own experience so give it a try.

Obviously some situations can be much more challenging than others. The loss of a loved one can be among the most challenging. But for most of us, common daily situations are fairly easily handled. Practice choosing happiness. Start with the easy situations and work towards the harder ones.

By the way, you are not trying to find the silver lining in the dark clouds. You are choosing to be happy even though the dark clouds are there and they are raining right on top of you!

Now let's talk about another example. Let's consider a romantic breakup. Here the emotions can be very strong. You can't just fake it, "Oh, you want to break up? OK - no problem. I feel fine. I just learned how to choose happiness no matter what. So I feel great." No, you've got to be honest and real.

If you are in a situation that is too much for you to handle with a genuinely joyful heart, here is what I recommend. Focus on the exact moment at hand and feel the emotions fully. Don't think about the past or the future. Just get into the emotions completely.

What I have found is that, while the emotions do hurt for awhile and can be very strong, when I pay attention to the present and go completely into the emotions, they don't last very long. If they come up again later, I just do the process again.

But the most important point for me is hard to put into words. It's this. While the emotions can hurt in the sense that they are very uncomfortable, they do not damage my essence, my being. I am making a distinction between being hurt in the sense of feeling bad and being damaged in the sense of destruction. When the painful moments pass, my awareness, my consciousness is just as alive and just as whole as it was before. You should look into this for yourself.

Your awareness is like the white screen that a movie is played on. Before the movie, the screen is perfectly white and without any damage. After the movie, it's still perfect no matter what the movie was about or how you choose to react to it. Nothing in the physical world can do any real damage to your awareness, your movie screen, your essence. Not even death.

I am not a psychotherapist, so if you need further guidance in dealing with your emotions, I recommend that you seek help elsewhere, but I would like to suggest one more thing. When it comes to anger, I recommend the middle path. Don't blow your top and yet, don't stuff your anger. Let off your steam gradually. Sometimes it helps to do something physical like go for a fast walk or punch a pillow.

Anger is a human emotion. We all have felt it at some time or another. If it's present, be honest about it and don't pretend that it isn't there. Work it out in a non-destructive way. You'll feel better.

I'll finish this chapter by asking, "What matters more to you? Getting what you want on the outside or getting what you want on the inside?" Outside circumstances such as a clear freeway might be nice but isn't your inner experience of peace and joy more important? Sure, we want the freeway to be clear but if it isn't, we can deal with it while still being pretty happy. You have much more control over your inner experience than the circumstances of the outer world.

That concludes this chapter.

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